So if you’re feeling like you’re having trouble meeting your goals, its time to re-assess them. Remember I told you to write them down and post them above your workspace? Did you do that? Its the first step to keeping yourself both motivated and accountable.
Are they specific? Something like “lose weight” or “go to the gym more” isn’t specific enough. If its not measurable, you will never know if you’ve reached it. “Lose 10 pounds” or “go to the gym twice a week” are specific goals with measured results. You will know you’ve achieved those things. If they aren’t specific, re-write them now.
If they are specific, it may be that you don’t know how to accomplish those things. “Drop one sweet drink a day to lose 10 pounds” may help you reach your goal better. Add sub-items to your specific goals to say exactly how you want to accomplish them.
Lastly, don’t allow yourself to believe you will fail – and end up not even trying. In middle school, one of my kids used to agonize over his math homework each night – spending an hour or more on a few problems. By the time he got to class, he would so convince himself that it wasn’t correct, he would turn it in – to the trash can on his way into class. It took his teacher discovering the work after class one day to realize what was happening. It wasn’t perfect, but it was good work – 80s and 90s. He was so convinced he couldn’t do it, that he would rather not do it at all than to receive a critical grade. No one is perfect. If you fall short of your goal, keep trying. You will reach it at some point.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” ― Theodore Roosevelt